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is it just me or is dating in your 30s actually worse
Quote from Debra1975 on January 8, 2026, 7:45 amI do the same thing lol. Hot water is sacred healing after dealing with kids and work all day. If he needs that reset time to just be quiet and clean, let him have it. I usually go in after him so the bathroom stays warm. Just enjoy your own peace while he’s in there. It’s not about control, it’s about survival.
I do the same thing lol. Hot water is sacred healing after dealing with kids and work all day. If he needs that reset time to just be quiet and clean, let him have it. I usually go in after him so the bathroom stays warm. Just enjoy your own peace while he’s in there. It’s not about control, it’s about survival.
Quote from firesummit on March 4, 2025, 3:06 amhonestly its just me and definitely not just you. im mixed race and living in chicago with zero patience for dating games so my sex life is basically non existent right now. im too anxious to even text men back consistently let alone plan dates. just scrolling tiktok and overthinking every interaction instead of actually doing anything. my libido is low bc my brain is in fight or flight mode all the time.
honestly its just me and definitely not just you. im mixed race and living in chicago with zero patience for dating games so my sex life is basically non existent right now. im too anxious to even text men back consistently let alone plan dates. just scrolling tiktok and overthinking every interaction instead of actually doing anything. my libido is low bc my brain is in fight or flight mode all the time.
Quote from Angela1995 on May 22, 2026, 3:35 amMy husband works construction so he crashes hard around 2pm. I used to think something was wrong with me too. Then I started napping. Just twenty minutes on the couch while the kids play. Wake up grumpy at first but then the rest of evening is fine. Drinking five cups of coffee doesn't fix it. Try shutting your eyes.
My husband works construction so he crashes hard around 2pm. I used to think something was wrong with me too. Then I started napping. Just twenty minutes on the couch while the kids play. Wake up grumpy at first but then the rest of evening is fine. Drinking five cups of coffee doesn't fix it. Try shutting your eyes.
Quote from Sunny1965 on May 26, 2025, 5:57 amI just soak in hot bath with epsom salts every night after leg day. Helps so much. Also stretch super slow before sleeping. Don’t ignore the pain though. If it keeps hurting talk to doc. I got hurt once pushing too hard. Now I rest when I need to. Listen to body. Sometimes less is more.
I just soak in hot bath with epsom salts every night after leg day. Helps so much. Also stretch super slow before sleeping. Don’t ignore the pain though. If it keeps hurting talk to doc. I got hurt once pushing too hard. Now I rest when I need to. Listen to body. Sometimes less is more.
Quote from Yarninlet on April 8, 2025, 12:38 pmYeah honestly. Hubby snores so loud i just give up after a while. We make out sometimes but that is about it. I think at our age it just is not the main event anymore. We hold hands and watch tv which is nice enough. Dont stress about it. My body just aches too much for anything wild.
Yeah honestly. Hubby snores so loud i just give up after a while. We make out sometimes but that is about it. I think at our age it just is not the main event anymore. We hold hands and watch tv which is nice enough. Dont stress about it. My body just aches too much for anything wild.
Quote from Shellstruggle on March 5, 2026, 1:55 pmdude same. i lift weights twice a week and still feel like i got hit by a commuter train. half the time i just scroll tiktok on the bench press. im mixed too so idk if its just my genes or chicago weather wrecking my circadian rhythm. honestly i just drink a rocket fuel before bed and hope for the best. why is recovery so hard??
dude same. i lift weights twice a week and still feel like i got hit by a commuter train. half the time i just scroll tiktok on the bench press. im mixed too so idk if its just my genes or chicago weather wrecking my circadian rhythm. honestly i just drink a rocket fuel before bed and hope for the best. why is recovery so hard??
Quote from Frances1997 on May 13, 2026, 9:43 pmwe moved 3 times last year. my husband thinks moving boxes is mans work but folding shirts is mine. i let the living room pile up. he complained once then carried the trash to curb himself. dont cook fancy food on day 1. order pizza. if house isnt perfect but kids are fed and beds are made thats win in my book. survival mode is real for immigrant moms.
we moved 3 times last year. my husband thinks moving boxes is mans work but folding shirts is mine. i let the living room pile up. he complained once then carried the trash to curb himself. dont cook fancy food on day 1. order pizza. if house isnt perfect but kids are fed and beds are made thats win in my book. survival mode is real for immigrant moms.
Quote from barbara1999 on June 10, 2026, 5:08 pmArre listen, coding means sitting like statue. That is why gas stuck. I also face same problem when I work on laptop for hours. First thing, drink hot water with lemon every morning. And eat more salad, no plain rice only. Walk for 10 mins every 2 hours. My husband also suffer from this. He started doing yoga stretch in evening. It helps very much. Try it.
Arre listen, coding means sitting like statue. That is why gas stuck. I also face same problem when I work on laptop for hours. First thing, drink hot water with lemon every morning. And eat more salad, no plain rice only. Walk for 10 mins every 2 hours. My husband also suffer from this. He started doing yoga stretch in evening. It helps very much. Try it.
Quote from Elmsentry on February 5, 2025, 4:12 pmmire, es pura verguenza ajena i miedo de ser judged. Me siento ridiula carrying 15lbs when everyone else lifts 50. Plus, my ego says i look strong but cant prove it. La primer week was brutal. Now just show up, grab the dumbbell, and ignore the gym bros staring. No hay drama, solo sudor. Si te da pena, hazlo en casa first.
mire, es pura verguenza ajena i miedo de ser judged. Me siento ridiula carrying 15lbs when everyone else lifts 50. Plus, my ego says i look strong but cant prove it. La primer week was brutal. Now just show up, grab the dumbbell, and ignore the gym bros staring. No hay drama, solo sudor. Si te da pena, hazlo en casa first.
Quote from Rosefoundry on October 26, 2025, 3:26 amyikes. sorry ur dealing with that. id cut him off right then and there. no second chances after lying about apps. just block him everywhere and dont look back. your energy is better spent on yourself right now. take a breath and focus on healing. you didnt deserve that disrespect. stay strong sister.
yikes. sorry ur dealing with that. id cut him off right then and there. no second chances after lying about apps. just block him everywhere and dont look back. your energy is better spent on yourself right now. take a breath and focus on healing. you didnt deserve that disrespect. stay strong sister.
