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why does working out make me feel worse than before ??
Quote from Calmfog on November 20, 2024, 7:55 amLord have mercy. I sit on a thick memory foam cushion during every service now. My doctor said its the only way to keep my joints from giving out. I also take ibuprofen right after getting home. Hot shower helps too. We walking up there in heels for an hour then wonder why our legs hurt. Switch to sneakers yall.
Lord have mercy. I sit on a thick memory foam cushion during every service now. My doctor said its the only way to keep my joints from giving out. I also take ibuprofen right after getting home. Hot shower helps too. We walking up there in heels for an hour then wonder why our legs hurt. Switch to sneakers yall.
Quote from wiseparade on December 22, 2024, 2:56 pmHonestly im just resting. Like sleeping until my body stops screaming. I stopped trying to be productive or fix everything overnight. My therapist told me to treat myself like I had the flu, so thats what I do. Drink agua, nap in the day, eat whatever sounds good even if its junk food. You cant pour from an empty cup so just let yourself be useless for now. Take it one hour at a time.
Honestly im just resting. Like sleeping until my body stops screaming. I stopped trying to be productive or fix everything overnight. My therapist told me to treat myself like I had the flu, so thats what I do. Drink agua, nap in the day, eat whatever sounds good even if its junk food. You cant pour from an empty cup so just let yourself be useless for now. Take it one hour at a time.
Quote from Goldenhour1990 on March 12, 2024, 3:32 amI stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
I stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
Quote from Crystal1983 on October 27, 2024, 7:46 amdivorced two years ago after exactly this. Tbh, he was exhausted, i was resentful, we both hated ourselves. now i have sex with myself whenever i want. no negotiations, no guilt. its honestly liberating. save yourself the argument. fill your own cup or step outside and find a community where people actually show up. dont wait for a tired man to fix your loneliness.
divorced two years ago after exactly this. Tbh, he was exhausted, i was resentful, we both hated ourselves. now i have sex with myself whenever i want. no negotiations, no guilt. its honestly liberating. save yourself the argument. fill your own cup or step outside and find a community where people actually show up. dont wait for a tired man to fix your loneliness.
Quote from featherwaterway on July 12, 2024, 5:54 pmfr bro is he alive lol i usually say let me grab my purse first cuz that’s my polite way of saying no without being rude. also check if he’s just rushing to get home. my ex did that. u know the drill. keep it casual and see if he walks u to ur car or just stands there staring. red flag if hes clocking the whole date like its a pit stop.
fr bro is he alive lol i usually say let me grab my purse first cuz that’s my polite way of saying no without being rude. also check if he’s just rushing to get home. my ex did that. u know the drill. keep it casual and see if he walks u to ur car or just stands there staring. red flag if hes clocking the whole date like its a pit stop.
Quote from ashepic on November 27, 2024, 6:54 amHonestly i just stopped apologizing for it. My auntie sat me down and said my body is mine not his obligation. Now i just say no clearly without over explaining. If they get mad that’s on them. Also make sure you’re not just burnt out from kitchen duty all week. Rest is valid. Keep your boundaries firm sis.
Honestly i just stopped apologizing for it. My auntie sat me down and said my body is mine not his obligation. Now i just say no clearly without over explaining. If they get mad that’s on them. Also make sure you’re not just burnt out from kitchen duty all week. Rest is valid. Keep your boundaries firm sis.
Quote from Christine2001 on August 17, 2024, 10:13 amhola girl. i get it. after my daughter was born i felt the exact same way. like my body belongs to everyone else but me. i just tell him i’m not in the headspace. we cuddle or watch telenovelas instead. no pressure. your body is yours, dont force it. take all the time u need. we’ll get there when ur ready.
hola girl. i get it. after my daughter was born i felt the exact same way. like my body belongs to everyone else but me. i just tell him i’m not in the headspace. we cuddle or watch telenovelas instead. no pressure. your body is yours, dont force it. take all the time u need. we’ll get there when ur ready.
Quote from Lori1985 on January 5, 2024, 5:58 amu r not alone honestly. i feel it too. sometimes i just rest and eat something good like pizza or tacos. other times i go for a walk cuz sitting makes my back hurt worse. my tias say its all in ur head but nah its real. im trying yoga on youtube but even that is hard some days. just take it easy on yoursef.
u r not alone honestly. i feel it too. sometimes i just rest and eat something good like pizza or tacos. other times i go for a walk cuz sitting makes my back hurt worse. my tias say its all in ur head but nah its real. im trying yoga on youtube but even that is hard some days. just take it easy on yoursef.
Quote from Gloria1969 on December 20, 2024, 4:44 amI had to stop signing up for team sports where everyone relies on me to show up. Lol, Now I just go run by myself before work. If people dont wanna meet me outside, they can wait in the car or stay home. My workout is my workout. I dont have time or energy to babysit grown adults through their fitness journeys. It is exhausting and pointless. I focus on my pace and my goals only. Boundaries helped more than any new routine ever did.
I had to stop signing up for team sports where everyone relies on me to show up. Lol, Now I just go run by myself before work. If people dont wanna meet me outside, they can wait in the car or stay home. My workout is my workout. I dont have time or energy to babysit grown adults through their fitness journeys. It is exhausting and pointless. I focus on my pace and my goals only. Boundaries helped more than any new routine ever did.
Quote from Warmrout on May 23, 2024, 1:20 pmnah its just gravity winning lol. im 38 and my back hurts every morning after coding. eye drops are basically my new skincare routine. used to think sleep was for weak nerds now i need 8 hours or i crash. doesnt feel fast just inevitable. just drink more water and stretch i guess. no big deal really
nah its just gravity winning lol. im 38 and my back hurts every morning after coding. eye drops are basically my new skincare routine. used to think sleep was for weak nerds now i need 8 hours or i crash. doesnt feel fast just inevitable. just drink more water and stretch i guess. no big deal really
