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Quote from Margaret1968 on June 6, 2023, 11:16 pmsame here. mine thinks loading the dishwasher is a favor. i stopped asking. now i just run a half load every night after he crashes on the couch. keeps the smell down. its not fair but its the only way i keep my sanity without starting a fight. just do what works for u.
same here. mine thinks loading the dishwasher is a favor. i stopped asking. now i just run a half load every night after he crashes on the couch. keeps the smell down. its not fair but its the only way i keep my sanity without starting a fight. just do what works for u.
Quote from Wildflower1984 on July 29, 2023, 4:19 amnah ur not alone tbh i used 2 think it was just me. i sit there visualizing all day and nothing happens. its exhausting fr. now i just manifest snacks bc that actually works lol. stop stressing sm. sometimes its just life happening and we gotta deal with it instead of trying to hack the universe. im tired of the hustle
nah ur not alone tbh i used 2 think it was just me. i sit there visualizing all day and nothing happens. its exhausting fr. now i just manifest snacks bc that actually works lol. stop stressing sm. sometimes its just life happening and we gotta deal with it instead of trying to hack the universe. im tired of the hustle
Quote from Wisehillside1982 on July 8, 2023, 10:40 pmHe’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
He’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
Quote from Gatewall on October 3, 2023, 9:03 amsame thing happen to me fr. i just started doing light stretching at home instead of going to the gym. less pressure and i dont have to deal w people staring. also try listening to loud music while u move it helps drown out the noise in my head. dont be too hard on urself. its a journey for real.
same thing happen to me fr. i just started doing light stretching at home instead of going to the gym. less pressure and i dont have to deal w people staring. also try listening to loud music while u move it helps drown out the noise in my head. dont be too hard on urself. its a journey for real.
Quote from happy2002 on September 26, 2023, 10:47 amnah ur not alone tbh i used 2 think it was just me. Tbh, i sit there visualizing all day and nothing happens. its exhausting fr. now i just manifest snacks bc that actually works lol. stop stressing sm. sometimes its just life happening and we gotta deal with it instead of trying to hack the universe. im tired of the hustle
nah ur not alone tbh i used 2 think it was just me. Tbh, i sit there visualizing all day and nothing happens. its exhausting fr. now i just manifest snacks bc that actually works lol. stop stressing sm. sometimes its just life happening and we gotta deal with it instead of trying to hack the universe. im tired of the hustle
Quote from budpledge on July 27, 2023, 4:02 pmomg same. just sit cross legged on a folded blanket instead of floor. keeps hips higher so less pressure on tailbone. i use old yoga mats cut up as extra cushions too. dont force posture if pain is there. just breathe and let body find comfort wherever that is today. sometimes less is more tbh.
omg same. just sit cross legged on a folded blanket instead of floor. keeps hips higher so less pressure on tailbone. i use old yoga mats cut up as extra cushions too. dont force posture if pain is there. just breathe and let body find comfort wherever that is today. sometimes less is more tbh.
Quote from GoldForest on November 15, 2023, 3:35 pmHonestly yes I do it twice a week even at my age. Yes it hurts the next day but the strength is worth it. I just lifted light dumbbells and did some squats yesterday. Felt like jelly today but I can still carry my groceries and play with my grandkids without my back killing me. Just stretch well and drink plenty of water. It keeps me independent and strong.
Honestly yes I do it twice a week even at my age. Yes it hurts the next day but the strength is worth it. I just lifted light dumbbells and did some squats yesterday. Felt like jelly today but I can still carry my groceries and play with my grandkids without my back killing me. Just stretch well and drink plenty of water. It keeps me independent and strong.
Quote from BirdSeaside on June 28, 2023, 3:13 pmHonestly not weird at all. Tbh, We moved three times in two years so our bedroom setups have been half packed in boxes for months. Husband thinks I’m rejecting him, but I’m just exhausted. Most intimacy now is him falling asleep on the couch while I fold laundry. If I’m lucky we try for 10 minutes but usually it’s a nope from me. Just survive, don’t expect much until the kids actually leave the house.
Honestly not weird at all. Tbh, We moved three times in two years so our bedroom setups have been half packed in boxes for months. Husband thinks I’m rejecting him, but I’m just exhausted. Most intimacy now is him falling asleep on the couch while I fold laundry. If I’m lucky we try for 10 minutes but usually it’s a nope from me. Just survive, don’t expect much until the kids actually leave the house.
Quote from Rose on November 26, 2023, 4:53 amYeah totally. I used to say yes to everything and ended up burnt out before the season even started. Now I just ghost people who ask favors if theyre not close friends. Saves me so much mental energy. If they get mad they werent worth the hassle anyway. Focus is everything when you have real goals. No guilt allowed.
Yeah totally. I used to say yes to everything and ended up burnt out before the season even started. Now I just ghost people who ask favors if theyre not close friends. Saves me so much mental energy. If they get mad they werent worth the hassle anyway. Focus is everything when you have real goals. No guilt allowed.
Quote from Joan1983 on November 17, 2023, 6:36 amHonestly he sounds typical desi husband type. After work he just sits on sofa with phone. I tell him behave like normal human being. Sometimes we just sit together drinking chai saying nothing and it is okay. But if silence means he ignores you completely that is red flag. Talk to him clearly about what you need. Don't guess his feelings.
Honestly he sounds typical desi husband type. After work he just sits on sofa with phone. I tell him behave like normal human being. Sometimes we just sit together drinking chai saying nothing and it is okay. But if silence means he ignores you completely that is red flag. Talk to him clearly about what you need. Don't guess his feelings.
