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Trust issues after betrayal
Quote from Cloudnine1994 on June 22, 2022, 7:44 amAura is just a fancy word for burnout. I stare at my spreadsheet at 7pm and feel like a ghost haunting my own kitchen. Sleep helps. Also eating something that isnt granola. If you cant look in the mirror without screaming maybe take the day off. Work does not care if you glow.
Aura is just a fancy word for burnout. I stare at my spreadsheet at 7pm and feel like a ghost haunting my own kitchen. Sleep helps. Also eating something that isnt granola. If you cant look in the mirror without screaming maybe take the day off. Work does not care if you glow.
Quote from plantmama1973 on July 21, 2022, 3:54 pmhonestly i just chuckle and say no thanks. For real, i need a solid block of quiet to actually decompress. five minutes feels like a blink. sometimes he wants to talk though so i just say lets talk over dinner later. i force a little boundary without making it huge. my brain still feels foggy from grading so i really need that space. just be upfront about needing downtime.
honestly i just chuckle and say no thanks. For real, i need a solid block of quiet to actually decompress. five minutes feels like a blink. sometimes he wants to talk though so i just say lets talk over dinner later. i force a little boundary without making it huge. my brain still feels foggy from grading so i really need that space. just be upfront about needing downtime.
Quote from Craftqueen1990 on June 12, 2022, 9:31 amI pulled the plug on that nonsense years ago. If he says i am too sensitive while tossing out garbage, he gets told to take a hike. No explaining, no crying, just leaving the room. My peace is worth more than his ego. I dont waste breath arguing with someone who refuses to see reality. Y’all deserve better than walking on eggshells.
I pulled the plug on that nonsense years ago. If he says i am too sensitive while tossing out garbage, he gets told to take a hike. No explaining, no crying, just leaving the room. My peace is worth more than his ego. I dont waste breath arguing with someone who refuses to see reality. Y’all deserve better than walking on eggshells.
Quote from Dreamtone on September 14, 2022, 4:19 pmSame here honestly. After 2 kids, my energy is basically zero after work. I dont even think about it most days. We just sleep next to each other and thats it. Sometimes we try but im too tired so i say no. It has been like this for years now. I guess it is normal for us moms. My husband understands mostly but sometimes gets quiet about it.
Same here honestly. After 2 kids, my energy is basically zero after work. I dont even think about it most days. We just sleep next to each other and thats it. Sometimes we try but im too tired so i say no. It has been like this for years now. I guess it is normal for us moms. My husband understands mostly but sometimes gets quiet about it.
Quote from Barbara1989 on July 14, 2022, 8:12 amI do the same thing lol. Hot water is sacred healing after dealing with kids and work all day. If he needs that reset time to just be quiet and clean, let him have it. I usually go in after him so the bathroom stays warm. Just enjoy your own peace while he’s in there. It’s not about control, it’s about survival.
I do the same thing lol. Hot water is sacred healing after dealing with kids and work all day. If he needs that reset time to just be quiet and clean, let him have it. I usually go in after him so the bathroom stays warm. Just enjoy your own peace while he’s in there. It’s not about control, it’s about survival.
Quote from Linda1979 on August 13, 2022, 2:40 pmfr i’m exhausted. i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
fr i’m exhausted. i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
Quote from Beth1993 on May 11, 2022, 8:58 amHusband thinks I’m crazy for needing quiet too. I leave the house every Saturday morning. Go to the library or just sit in my car. He complains but I don’t care. If I don’t get that hour to myself I snap. My peace isn’t negotiable. You do you. Don’t let him guilt trip you into losing your mind.
Husband thinks I’m crazy for needing quiet too. I leave the house every Saturday morning. Go to the library or just sit in my car. He complains but I don’t care. If I don’t get that hour to myself I snap. My peace isn’t negotiable. You do you. Don’t let him guilt trip you into losing your mind.
Quote from True1976 on January 17, 2023, 12:16 pmSachi kaho, I had a guy like that too. He said sweet things but never showed up. I waited once, twice, then just left. Actions are truth, words are just air. If he wanted to be with you, he would make space, not excuses. Don t waste your time waiting for him to change. Pack your bags mentally and see what you want for yourself. Trust your gut, sister.
Sachi kaho, I had a guy like that too. He said sweet things but never showed up. I waited once, twice, then just left. Actions are truth, words are just air. If he wanted to be with you, he would make space, not excuses. Don t waste your time waiting for him to change. Pack your bags mentally and see what you want for yourself. Trust your gut, sister.
Quote from pawtale on August 31, 2023, 10:12 pmhonestly i just squeeze it in when i can. work been crazy lately so some days i skip it entirely and thats fine. dont stress bout missing a day or two. my body needs rest too. if u get home late just do a quick stretch or walk around the block. dont let guilt eat u up. we all tired sometimes. just do what u can with whats left in the tank.
honestly i just squeeze it in when i can. work been crazy lately so some days i skip it entirely and thats fine. dont stress bout missing a day or two. my body needs rest too. if u get home late just do a quick stretch or walk around the block. dont let guilt eat u up. we all tired sometimes. just do what u can with whats left in the tank.
Quote from Midnightmoon1970 on December 9, 2023, 2:47 pmHe’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
He’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
