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tired of carrying the fam everywhere lol
Quote from Teresa1996 on October 1, 2020, 12:51 amhey guys i am so done. yesterday was rough. i woke up at 5am to cook tave puce for school then drove to the market to buy taro and salt fish. the bus was late so i walked home with three kids and two heavy bags. my feet hurt so bad. my mom called to ask why i did not call her back. i just sat on the stairs and cried a bit. it is not just today. it is every day since i had my baby. i feel like i am invisible until they need something. my husband works nights so i do everything alone. i miss having time to just sit and drink my tea without being interrupted. i am trying to keep up but i am exhausted. does anyone else feel like they are carrying the whole family on their back?
hey guys i am so done. yesterday was rough. i woke up at 5am to cook tave puce for school then drove to the market to buy taro and salt fish. the bus was late so i walked home with three kids and two heavy bags. my feet hurt so bad. my mom called to ask why i did not call her back. i just sat on the stairs and cried a bit. it is not just today. it is every day since i had my baby. i feel like i am invisible until they need something. my husband works nights so i do everything alone. i miss having time to just sit and drink my tea without being interrupted. i am trying to keep up but i am exhausted. does anyone else feel like they are carrying the whole family on their back?
Quote from Jennifer1970 on October 16, 2020, 3:50 ami use heating pads and witch hazel compresses when the pain gets bad. also trying to walk barefoot on grass helps ground me and loosen up my joints. my grandma taught me to rub warm olive oil mixed with clove oil into the knees before bed. it’s not a cure but it takes the edge off without numbing me out. keep moving gentle don’t let it sit still too long.
i use heating pads and witch hazel compresses when the pain gets bad. also trying to walk barefoot on grass helps ground me and loosen up my joints. my grandma taught me to rub warm olive oil mixed with clove oil into the knees before bed. it’s not a cure but it takes the edge off without numbing me out. keep moving gentle don’t let it sit still too long.
Quote from Lovetree on March 13, 2020, 4:22 amnever had time to be stressed after first kid too. Ngl, 3 kids is just chaos but you get used to it. I just keep a big whiteboard in kitchen for daily tasks and let husband handle bedtime sometimes. my brain feels full all the time but honestly its better than before. just survive each day. dont worry about being perfect.
never had time to be stressed after first kid too. Ngl, 3 kids is just chaos but you get used to it. I just keep a big whiteboard in kitchen for daily tasks and let husband handle bedtime sometimes. my brain feels full all the time but honestly its better than before. just survive each day. dont worry about being perfect.
Quote from Dancequeen1979 on November 30, 2021, 12:59 pmnah i would just tell her straight up. tell her its not our culture or tradition here. we don't do that kind of stuff in the house. its confusing for my kids too. just say no politely but firmly. dont let her push it. keep the space yours. if she keeps it up ask her to do it at her place or temple. boundary setting is key fam.
nah i would just tell her straight up. tell her its not our culture or tradition here. we don't do that kind of stuff in the house. its confusing for my kids too. just say no politely but firmly. dont let her push it. keep the space yours. if she keeps it up ask her to do it at her place or temple. boundary setting is key fam.
Quote from Sara1965 on May 29, 2021, 3:52 amYeah totally. I used to say yes to everything and ended up burnt out before the season even started. Now I just ghost people who ask favors if theyre not close friends. Saves me so much mental energy. If they get mad they werent worth the hassle anyway. Focus is everything when you have real goals. No guilt allowed.
Yeah totally. I used to say yes to everything and ended up burnt out before the season even started. Now I just ghost people who ask favors if theyre not close friends. Saves me so much mental energy. If they get mad they werent worth the hassle anyway. Focus is everything when you have real goals. No guilt allowed.
Quote from SageSilver on May 23, 2021, 6:11 pmnever had time to be stressed after first kid too. 3 kids is just chaos but you get used to it. I just keep a big whiteboard in kitchen for daily tasks and let husband handle bedtime sometimes. my brain feels full all the time but honestly its better than before. just survive each day. dont worry about being perfect.
never had time to be stressed after first kid too. 3 kids is just chaos but you get used to it. I just keep a big whiteboard in kitchen for daily tasks and let husband handle bedtime sometimes. my brain feels full all the time but honestly its better than before. just survive each day. dont worry about being perfect.
Quote from Quietstorm1975 on September 8, 2021, 3:42 amim 68 and honestly dont care if it is boring as long as it works. i just put on my podcasts and march in place for 30 mins. keeps the heart happy. its not glamorous but i dont get bored because im listening to stories instead. focus on the audio not the movement. thats my secret.
im 68 and honestly dont care if it is boring as long as it works. i just put on my podcasts and march in place for 30 mins. keeps the heart happy. its not glamorous but i dont get bored because im listening to stories instead. focus on the audio not the movement. thats my secret.
Quote from calmocean1991 on May 28, 2021, 5:57 pmI literally just told my man to take over every other weekend. No negotiation. If he wants to be a dad, he steps up. I used to do everything too until I got so tired I just stopped caring. Now he handles bedtime and laundry on his days. It’s not fair but it’s necessary for my sanity. Just set the boundary baby.
I literally just told my man to take over every other weekend. No negotiation. If he wants to be a dad, he steps up. I used to do everything too until I got so tired I just stopped caring. Now he handles bedtime and laundry on his days. It’s not fair but it’s necessary for my sanity. Just set the boundary baby.
Quote from SeaPearl on June 28, 2021, 5:45 pmhon i set clear boundaries day one. told her house rules include no rituals in living spaces. she can do it in her own place or outside. simple as that. been married 12 years, never had issues since. if you dont speak up they just keep doing it. be direct but polite. my dad in law handles the stuff now. works for us.
hon i set clear boundaries day one. told her house rules include no rituals in living spaces. she can do it in her own place or outside. simple as that. been married 12 years, never had issues since. if you dont speak up they just keep doing it. be direct but polite. my dad in law handles the stuff now. works for us.
Quote from Goldensunset1995 on January 20, 2021, 2:35 pmHonestly sounds like you are just burnt out. Tbh, My aura isn’t broken either, just tired. I wake up early for fajr pray then rush kids to school. After work I cook for everyone because mom always says food is love. Now I sit on couch staring at phone. If I don’t sleep 8 hours my face gets pale and I snap at husband. Just rest already.
Honestly sounds like you are just burnt out. Tbh, My aura isn’t broken either, just tired. I wake up early for fajr pray then rush kids to school. After work I cook for everyone because mom always says food is love. Now I sit on couch staring at phone. If I don’t sleep 8 hours my face gets pale and I snap at husband. Just rest already.
