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Quote from Moonstepping on September 8, 2024, 9:46 pmhonestly it makes me so mad because i did all the planning last year and he just got a gift card. i don’t care about the date itself but the lack of effort stings. i usually just make a big mess in the kitchen to remind him. it’s stupid but i need that acknowledgment. also semicolons are fun
honestly it makes me so mad because i did all the planning last year and he just got a gift card. i don’t care about the date itself but the lack of effort stings. i usually just make a big mess in the kitchen to remind him. it’s stupid but i need that acknowledgment. also semicolons are fun
Quote from Sophia2003 on April 28, 2024, 8:07 pmi just accept the mess. Honestly, when i feel like im crumbling i sit on my porch with cold coffee and watch the wind. no fixing, no journaling, just sitting. sometimes i cry till im bored. then i get up and make breakfast. the shedding happens whether i force it or not. just breathe through the ugliest part and let your body do what it needs to do. its messy but its real.
i just accept the mess. Honestly, when i feel like im crumbling i sit on my porch with cold coffee and watch the wind. no fixing, no journaling, just sitting. sometimes i cry till im bored. then i get up and make breakfast. the shedding happens whether i force it or not. just breathe through the ugliest part and let your body do what it needs to do. its messy but its real.
Quote from KindDusk on September 19, 2024, 11:41 amdont miss it. i am 46 and my husband and i have been together 20 years. we stopped doing all that fake excitement years ago. now we just chill. watch tv, eat good food, talk about bills. it is peaceful. the honeymoon phase is exhausting. you spend all your energy trying to impress someone. i rather be comfortable and know he is not going anywhere. save your energy for yourself.
dont miss it. i am 46 and my husband and i have been together 20 years. we stopped doing all that fake excitement years ago. now we just chill. watch tv, eat good food, talk about bills. it is peaceful. the honeymoon phase is exhausting. you spend all your energy trying to impress someone. i rather be comfortable and know he is not going anywhere. save your energy for yourself.
Quote from braveheart1987 on September 19, 2024, 11:41 amsame honestly. i’m burnt out from taking two cabs to the gym after work just to hit a PR. my brain won’t shut up about work so my weight is off. i switched to 3 short sessions a week instead of killing myself 5 times. progress is slow but i’m less exhausted. maybe u need rest not more grind. hope that helps sm
same honestly. i’m burnt out from taking two cabs to the gym after work just to hit a PR. my brain won’t shut up about work so my weight is off. i switched to 3 short sessions a week instead of killing myself 5 times. progress is slow but i’m less exhausted. maybe u need rest not more grind. hope that helps sm
Quote from Brightvalley2003 on January 25, 2024, 12:47 amhonestly i just go for a walk around the property if the gym feels too much sometimes i dont even listen to anything just breathe and look at the trees it doesnt have to be a hard workout or anything fancy just moving the body helps clear the noise in my head for me tryin to force it makes it worse im finding
honestly i just go for a walk around the property if the gym feels too much sometimes i dont even listen to anything just breathe and look at the trees it doesnt have to be a hard workout or anything fancy just moving the body helps clear the noise in my head for me tryin to force it makes it worse im finding
Quote from diane1967 on October 8, 2024, 12:27 pmhonestly i just chuckle and say no thanks. i need a solid block of quiet to actually decompress. five minutes feels like a blink. sometimes he wants to talk though so i just say lets talk over dinner later. i force a little boundary without making it huge. my brain still feels foggy from grading so i really need that space. just be upfront about needing downtime.
honestly i just chuckle and say no thanks. i need a solid block of quiet to actually decompress. five minutes feels like a blink. sometimes he wants to talk though so i just say lets talk over dinner later. i force a little boundary without making it huge. my brain still feels foggy from grading so i really need that space. just be upfront about needing downtime.
Quote from calmtide on January 4, 2025, 10:03 amfr i’m exhausted. i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
fr i’m exhausted. i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
Quote from virginia1995 on March 28, 2026, 6:07 pmnah same. honestly i just grab my phone and scroll tik toks until my eyes get heavy again. trying to sleep just makes me more mad. its like my brain decides 3am is the only time we can catch up on life. i drink water and just lay there listening to the city noises. u probs hungry too bt you too tired to get up lol
nah same. honestly i just grab my phone and scroll tik toks until my eyes get heavy again. trying to sleep just makes me more mad. its like my brain decides 3am is the only time we can catch up on life. i drink water and just lay there listening to the city noises. u probs hungry too bt you too tired to get up lol
Quote from boldriver1987 on June 28, 2026, 5:08 amLook I got that same knee trouble. I swear, I just take ibuprofen when I actually need it to move around. Not everyday though. My doctor said its safe in moderation. Also try putting ice on it after work. I keep a bag in the freezer ready to go. Works better than sitting there in pain trying to be tough.
Look I got that same knee trouble. I swear, I just take ibuprofen when I actually need it to move around. Not everyday though. My doctor said its safe in moderation. Also try putting ice on it after work. I keep a bag in the freezer ready to go. Works better than sitting there in pain trying to be tough.
Quote from marilyn on July 8, 2025, 7:41 pmhe’s prob just high on the smoke lol. i burn white sage daily to clear my space so i always carry that scent. it’s not pheromones men it’s respect for the medicine. if he can’t handle the realness of your practice then he’s not right for you. don’t let him make you feel weird about your traditions. keep smudging.
he’s prob just high on the smoke lol. i burn white sage daily to clear my space so i always carry that scent. it’s not pheromones men it’s respect for the medicine. if he can’t handle the realness of your practice then he’s not right for you. don’t let him make you feel weird about your traditions. keep smudging.
