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is it weird that i miss the domestic stuff more than him
Quote from Victoria1998 on March 7, 2026, 3:14 pmi literally just stopped asking him to do anything. if i need something done i do it myself or hire a babysitter for an hour. my sanity is worth more than his participation. dont wait around for him to step up he wont. lower your expectations to zero and stop explaining what you need. it just saves everyone the drama.
i literally just stopped asking him to do anything. if i need something done i do it myself or hire a babysitter for an hour. my sanity is worth more than his participation. dont wait around for him to step up he wont. lower your expectations to zero and stop explaining what you need. it just saves everyone the drama.
Quote from Wildheart1987 on June 4, 2026, 9:51 pmyeah its crazy. I catch myself staring in the mirror wondering where the last five years went. My knees click now when i wake up. ive just started accepting it. drink water walk sit outside. dont fight it too hard cause you just get tired. my grandma said aging is a privilege but right now all i feel is tired lol.
yeah its crazy. I catch myself staring in the mirror wondering where the last five years went. My knees click now when i wake up. ive just started accepting it. drink water walk sit outside. dont fight it too hard cause you just get tired. my grandma said aging is a privilege but right now all i feel is tired lol.
Quote from Yarnspectacle on August 28, 2025, 2:48 amHonestly i just stopped apologizing for it. My auntie sat me down and said my body is mine not his obligation. Now i just say no clearly without over explaining. If they get mad that’s on them. Also make sure you’re not just burnt out from kitchen duty all week. Rest is valid. Keep your boundaries firm sis.
Honestly i just stopped apologizing for it. My auntie sat me down and said my body is mine not his obligation. Now i just say no clearly without over explaining. If they get mad that’s on them. Also make sure you’re not just burnt out from kitchen duty all week. Rest is valid. Keep your boundaries firm sis.
Quote from MapleDream on July 6, 2026, 6:16 pmBabe take the nap. Seriously. My husband wants round two daily and I’m over it. I just tell him I’m dead to the world. We compromise on weekends. Rest is sacred at my age. If he’s mad he can sleep on the couch. Your energy is limited so spend it on yourself. Don’t feel guilty.
Babe take the nap. Seriously. My husband wants round two daily and I’m over it. I just tell him I’m dead to the world. We compromise on weekends. Rest is sacred at my age. If he’s mad he can sleep on the couch. Your energy is limited so spend it on yourself. Don’t feel guilty.
Quote from Martha1973 on May 31, 2025, 12:02 pmit is definitely worse. Ngl, i stopped swiping last month because every guy under 40 wants a baby mama who cooks kabsa and cleans his house. i just want someone who pays half the rent and doesnt talk about crypto. honestly its better hanging out with my uncles at the weekend mall than dealing with these weird men. tired of explaining basic respect.
it is definitely worse. Ngl, i stopped swiping last month because every guy under 40 wants a baby mama who cooks kabsa and cleans his house. i just want someone who pays half the rent and doesnt talk about crypto. honestly its better hanging out with my uncles at the weekend mall than dealing with these weird men. tired of explaining basic respect.
Quote from Dogmom1984 on February 24, 2025, 1:58 pmhey there. i get it. honestly i just let it happen. stopped trying to hold onto the old version of myself. days are long out here in the woods so i just put on boots and walk it off. doesnt fix everything but helps me sleep. dont overthink it. just breathe and keep moving. youll figure it out like everyone else does. tough but true.
hey there. i get it. honestly i just let it happen. stopped trying to hold onto the old version of myself. days are long out here in the woods so i just put on boots and walk it off. doesnt fix everything but helps me sleep. dont overthink it. just breathe and keep moving. youll figure it out like everyone else does. tough but true.
Quote from CliffraIN on July 6, 2026, 1:10 amhon i set clear boundaries day one. I swear, told her house rules include no rituals in living spaces. she can do it in her own place or outside. simple as that. been married 12 years, never had issues since. if you dont speak up they just keep doing it. be direct but polite. my dad in law handles the stuff now. works for us.
hon i set clear boundaries day one. I swear, told her house rules include no rituals in living spaces. she can do it in her own place or outside. simple as that. been married 12 years, never had issues since. if you dont speak up they just keep doing it. be direct but polite. my dad in law handles the stuff now. works for us.
Quote from Brave1974 on January 28, 2025, 9:10 amI stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
I stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
Quote from brave1982 on March 19, 2026, 9:14 ami relate. i used to think i was lazy until i realized i was just burnt out from people pleasing. now i say no to extra work and stop cooking when i dont have the energy. take a nap buy takeout it is not a moral failing. you are human
i relate. i used to think i was lazy until i realized i was just burnt out from people pleasing. now i say no to extra work and stop cooking when i dont have the energy. take a nap buy takeout it is not a moral failing. you are human
Quote from RedSummit on August 22, 2025, 11:13 pmyeah honey same here. Tbh, i used to hate the gym so much. now i just walk around my neighborhood for 30 mins while listening to audiobooks or music. makes time fly and doesnt feel like a chore at all. sometimes i just sit on the porch and soak up the sun. keeps the joints loose without the agony of lifting weights. hope you find something that clicks for you too.
yeah honey same here. Tbh, i used to hate the gym so much. now i just walk around my neighborhood for 30 mins while listening to audiobooks or music. makes time fly and doesnt feel like a chore at all. sometimes i just sit on the porch and soak up the sun. keeps the joints loose without the agony of lifting weights. hope you find something that clicks for you too.
