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is it just me or is gym culture so lonely there
Quote from clawhustle on May 7, 2019, 4:36 pmit is 645pm here in honolulu and i am sitting on the mat stretching my legs. my back hurts from carrying the toddler and the groceries from foodland. the gym air conditioning is freezing but everyone else is wearing fancy gear and talking loud. i feel so out of place. my cousin says i should join a pilates class but those are 40 dollars a pop and i barely have money for gas. i miss the way we used to walk together after church but work keeps me late. the silence in the free weights area is heavy. nobody asks how your day was. they just stare at phones or count reps. i just want to lift weights without feeling invisible and alone in a crowded room. does anyone else feel this way or am i overthinking it
it is 645pm here in honolulu and i am sitting on the mat stretching my legs. my back hurts from carrying the toddler and the groceries from foodland. the gym air conditioning is freezing but everyone else is wearing fancy gear and talking loud. i feel so out of place. my cousin says i should join a pilates class but those are 40 dollars a pop and i barely have money for gas. i miss the way we used to walk together after church but work keeps me late. the silence in the free weights area is heavy. nobody asks how your day was. they just stare at phones or count reps. i just want to lift weights without feeling invisible and alone in a crowded room. does anyone else feel this way or am i overthinking it
Quote from Mountainrose1974 on June 7, 2020, 1:26 pmAura is just a fancy word for burnout. Ngl, I stare at my spreadsheet at 7pm and feel like a ghost haunting my own kitchen. Sleep helps. Also eating something that isnt granola. If you cant look in the mirror without screaming maybe take the day off. Work does not care if you glow.
Aura is just a fancy word for burnout. Ngl, I stare at my spreadsheet at 7pm and feel like a ghost haunting my own kitchen. Sleep helps. Also eating something that isnt granola. If you cant look in the mirror without screaming maybe take the day off. Work does not care if you glow.
Quote from Bakerbee1991 on April 15, 2020, 3:36 amI stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. For real, If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
I stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. For real, If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.
Quote from becky1993 on September 19, 2020, 12:41 amnah just go. Lol, i always use busy work as an excuse to skip but regret it later. my family gathers every weekend so i try to squeeze in a quick session before them. keeps the stress down. even twenty minutes is better than nothing. dont overthink it. just put on your shoes and go. you will feel better after.
nah just go. Lol, i always use busy work as an excuse to skip but regret it later. my family gathers every weekend so i try to squeeze in a quick session before them. keeps the stress down. even twenty minutes is better than nothing. dont overthink it. just put on your shoes and go. you will feel better after.
Quote from Sandy1987 on January 14, 2020, 5:00 amim so there. kept an old fashioned hot water bottle by my bed all night. just put it on while i was still warm. by the time i needed it for the kid, it was ready. saves having to run back to the bathroom. also got a stash of fever reducers in the kids room. you dont want to hunt in the dark. drink some tea. take turns if he has a sitter.
im so there. kept an old fashioned hot water bottle by my bed all night. just put it on while i was still warm. by the time i needed it for the kid, it was ready. saves having to run back to the bathroom. also got a stash of fever reducers in the kids room. you dont want to hunt in the dark. drink some tea. take turns if he has a sitter.
Quote from stoneallegory on February 17, 2020, 2:29 pmyeah its totally normal. Ngl, i lift heavy twice a week out here and my quads are trash for two days straight. cant even climb the stairs to get up without groaning. just keep moving a little bit. drinking water helps too. if it burns too bad try some heat. don't expect to walk normal tomorrow though. just tough it out.
yeah its totally normal. Ngl, i lift heavy twice a week out here and my quads are trash for two days straight. cant even climb the stairs to get up without groaning. just keep moving a little bit. drinking water helps too. if it burns too bad try some heat. don't expect to walk normal tomorrow though. just tough it out.
Quote from CedarCotton on November 5, 2020, 4:51 pmHonestly I think it’s both. My knees hurt all the time but my spirit feels heavy too. I just sit on the porch with my coffee and let God handle the worry. Y’all need to rest more. Not everything needs fixing today. Just breathe and take it one hour at a time. I’m trying to stop doing so much for everybody else.
Honestly I think it’s both. My knees hurt all the time but my spirit feels heavy too. I just sit on the porch with my coffee and let God handle the worry. Y’all need to rest more. Not everything needs fixing today. Just breathe and take it one hour at a time. I’m trying to stop doing so much for everybody else.
Quote from melissa1968 on August 7, 2020, 7:09 amhonestly I tell him straight up that I dont need those details. if he keeps bringing her name up I just stop listening and change the topic. you dont get paid to hear about his past drama so dont let him dump it on you. keep it light and make him focus on us. if he cant let go maybe he should be talking to his shrink not you. simple as that.
honestly I tell him straight up that I dont need those details. if he keeps bringing her name up I just stop listening and change the topic. you dont get paid to hear about his past drama so dont let him dump it on you. keep it light and make him focus on us. if he cant let go maybe he should be talking to his shrink not you. simple as that.
Quote from sweety1978 on November 29, 2021, 6:17 pmI feel this. Last year I hit a wall too. I’m a teacher so I spend all day pouring into others and come home with nothing left. I realized it wasnt laziness, it was just burnout. Now I force myself to rest without guilt. Honestly just taking a nap or doing absolutely nothing for an hour changed everything. Youre not lazy, youre just drained. Be kind to yourself.
I feel this. Last year I hit a wall too. I’m a teacher so I spend all day pouring into others and come home with nothing left. I realized it wasnt laziness, it was just burnout. Now I force myself to rest without guilt. Honestly just taking a nap or doing absolutely nothing for an hour changed everything. Youre not lazy, youre just drained. Be kind to yourself.
Quote from Trueyarn on August 14, 2021, 9:50 amhonestly just keep it stupid simple. military life is stressful enough without trying to figure out a ten, step routine. i stick to ceraface cleanser, moisturizer, and spf 50. thats it. if my skin looks trash i just sleep it off. stop overthinking it. complicated routines are a trap. consistency beats intensity every time. just wash your face and slather on sunscreen. really.
honestly just keep it stupid simple. military life is stressful enough without trying to figure out a ten, step routine. i stick to ceraface cleanser, moisturizer, and spf 50. thats it. if my skin looks trash i just sleep it off. stop overthinking it. complicated routines are a trap. consistency beats intensity every time. just wash your face and slather on sunscreen. really.






