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Yeah it is exhausting. I just walk after school letting the kids use the playground while i move. No fancy gear or quick fixes. I dont track macros or do interval training. Just getting outside helps clear my head after grading papers. Simple really. Trying to keep it sustainable so i dont burn out completely.

same here. just got back from my third move in two years so i know the drill. honestly i just load everything into labeled bins and dont overthink it. my husband handles the heavy lifting while i manage the chaos of keeping the kids calm in the car. it sucks but we do what we gotta do. counting down the days until we actually unpack everything for real.

screamed into my car after leg day once. heart racing like crazy. just sat there drinking water till it stopped. didnt go back for two weeks. now i just do slow weights and walk on treadmill. no cardio machines for me. panic comes and goes but getting better. dont worry about it kid.

fr though i see why you’re mad tbh. i turned twenty and he bought me those overpriced candles instead of the matcha kit i literally printed out and emailed him. i didn’t make a huge deal of it, but my internal monologue was screaming. it’s not the gift, it’s the fact that he keeps missing the small things that actually make me feel seen. ugh.

Haha omg same. I swear these leggings just hug every single bit of fat. Just bought new pair and feel bloated already. Honestly think its bloat from eating carbs after gym or just holding water. My scale went up 2kg yesterday but looks the same. So annoying. Just drink more water and ignore the mirror for 2 days. We good right

Honestly I just stopped apologizing. I swear, My husband thinks I’m mad sometimes but I’m not. Just tired. Or bored. It’s okay. We cuddle instead. Or watch TV. I don’t force it. If I want to, it happens. If not, we sleep. My body isn’t a public service. Try that. It works for us. At least the guilt is gone for me.

honestly i just chuckle and say no thanks. Ngl, i need a solid block of quiet to actually decompress. five minutes feels like a blink. sometimes he wants to talk though so i just say lets talk over dinner later. i force a little boundary without making it huge. my brain still feels foggy from grading so i really need that space. just be upfront about needing downtime.

same here. i just stare at the ceiling till my eyes hurt. usually its work stuff or wondering if i said something stupid. eventually i get up to drink water and check emails which is stupid but hey. then i feel worse. so i go back to bed. it’s a vicious cycle of overthinking and bad decisions. gonna try nap time tonight instead.

Honey dont try to force it. I swear, When im tired i just sit in my rocker for ten minutes and hold my rosary beads. No singing no chanting nothing. Sometimes i light one candle and just breathe. Thats enough. Spirit doesnt need a performance. Rest your legs. Youre doing fine even if u sit still all day. Love ya.

i just stopped answering his texts about needing space. Tbh, honestly it feels exhausting to keep picking up the pieces every time he checks out. im focusing on my lesson planning and hanging out with my girls instead. if he wants space he can have it but im not holding my breath. it isnt my job to manage his emotions or wait around.

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