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husband says he’s too tired for sex after 12 hour shift again
Quote from bluffjourney on March 7, 2019, 5:04 pmIt is 9pm and I just got the boys down for the night. They ate mac and cheese from the cheap box because we are out of good pasta. Mark came home at 730 after his 12 hour shift at the base hospital. He looked so drained. I tried to be sweet and asked if he wanted to cuddle or maybe do something intimate. He just sighed and said he is too tired. Again. This is the fourth time this week. We just moved back to this town in March and I am trying to connect with him but he is always exhausted. I feel like I am living with a roommate who ignores me. I miss him. Is this normal for military guys or is he pulling away for another reason.
It is 9pm and I just got the boys down for the night. They ate mac and cheese from the cheap box because we are out of good pasta. Mark came home at 730 after his 12 hour shift at the base hospital. He looked so drained. I tried to be sweet and asked if he wanted to cuddle or maybe do something intimate. He just sighed and said he is too tired. Again. This is the fourth time this week. We just moved back to this town in March and I am trying to connect with him but he is always exhausted. I feel like I am living with a roommate who ignores me. I miss him. Is this normal for military guys or is he pulling away for another reason.
Quote from Gentlebreeze1977 on March 23, 2020, 4:19 amHonestly just tell him to stop. Ive been with my husband for eight years and we move constantly so i dont have time for drama. If he cant leave his ex in the past then hes not ready. I wouldnt even listen anymore if he brought it up twice. Just shut it down firmly. You deserve better than that baggage.
Honestly just tell him to stop. Ive been with my husband for eight years and we move constantly so i dont have time for drama. If he cant leave his ex in the past then hes not ready. I wouldnt even listen anymore if he brought it up twice. Just shut it down firmly. You deserve better than that baggage.
Quote from brenda1997 on March 2, 2020, 10:30 amim not really finding god atm just trying to survive the heat and my kids driving me crazy. Lol, honestly praying feels like work lately. i just make my coffee sit in silence for ten minutes. thats it. sometimes that quiet time is enough for me right now. dont overthink it. just breathe.
im not really finding god atm just trying to survive the heat and my kids driving me crazy. Lol, honestly praying feels like work lately. i just make my coffee sit in silence for ten minutes. thats it. sometimes that quiet time is enough for me right now. dont overthink it. just breathe.
Quote from Janice2002 on November 12, 2020, 2:55 pmOh honey same here tried everything honestly ice packs after gardening help a ton and those little foam knee pads u get at cvs before mowing the lawn. My husband calls me grandma gunderson cause i walk like a penguin but hey it keeps me moving. Praying for u girl
Oh honey same here tried everything honestly ice packs after gardening help a ton and those little foam knee pads u get at cvs before mowing the lawn. My husband calls me grandma gunderson cause i walk like a penguin but hey it keeps me moving. Praying for u girl
Quote from BrightLeaf on November 14, 2021, 9:53 pmi relate. i used to think i was lazy until i realized i was just burnt out from people pleasing. now i say no to extra work and stop cooking when i dont have the energy. take a nap buy takeout it is not a moral failing. you are human
i relate. i used to think i was lazy until i realized i was just burnt out from people pleasing. now i say no to extra work and stop cooking when i dont have the energy. take a nap buy takeout it is not a moral failing. you are human
Quote from Emberdeal on May 3, 2021, 6:59 pmsame here. i stretch every nite but my hamstrings are rock. it’s wild how fast the body changes. i just accept it now and focus on keeping my back loose so i dont hurt myself. 45 feels young but the joints say otherwise. at least mine still work lol.
same here. i stretch every nite but my hamstrings are rock. it’s wild how fast the body changes. i just accept it now and focus on keeping my back loose so i dont hurt myself. 45 feels young but the joints say otherwise. at least mine still work lol.
Quote from Brittany1965 on November 24, 2021, 3:34 pmHe’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
He’s projecting. When my ex did that, i stopped trying to read his mind. I just kept doing my thing. If he wants to talk, great. If not, i’m not gonna sit here anxious while he ignores me. You teach kids all day, you have enough emotional labor to do. Don’t give your energy away to someone who isn’t showing up. Just focus on your own routine and see if he steps up.
Quote from Iris2001 on February 19, 2021, 12:21 pmYeah totally normal. My man does this all the time. He just shuts up and goes outside or looks at his phone. I used to think something was wrong but then i figured out he just needs space to recharge. Now i just let him be. If i bother him he gets cranky so i just go do my own thing too. Its peaceful actually.
Yeah totally normal. My man does this all the time. He just shuts up and goes outside or looks at his phone. I used to think something was wrong but then i figured out he just needs space to recharge. Now i just let him be. If i bother him he gets cranky so i just go do my own thing too. Its peaceful actually.
Quote from Gentle1979 on January 23, 2021, 6:17 pmhonestly just grab coffee. Tbh, keeps it low pressure and cheap. i text that i’m heading to starbucks and if they wanna join cool. if not whatever. no big fancy dinners where you’re stuck for hours if it’s a vibe mismatch. keeps it simple. don’t overthink it bro.
honestly just grab coffee. Tbh, keeps it low pressure and cheap. i text that i’m heading to starbucks and if they wanna join cool. if not whatever. no big fancy dinners where you’re stuck for hours if it’s a vibe mismatch. keeps it simple. don’t overthink it bro.
Quote from crystal1986 on May 24, 2021, 1:42 pmi sleep 7 hours and still feel like a zombie. Honestly, my doctor says i’m fine but my energy is shot. i just drink black coffee and survive on sheer willpower until 3pm. then i crash hard. maybe it’s just age or burnout. i stopped trying to fix it and just accepted my low battery mode. dinner is usually takeout because cooking requires too much effort.
i sleep 7 hours and still feel like a zombie. Honestly, my doctor says i’m fine but my energy is shot. i just drink black coffee and survive on sheer willpower until 3pm. then i crash hard. maybe it’s just age or burnout. i stopped trying to fix it and just accepted my low battery mode. dinner is usually takeout because cooking requires too much effort.
