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how to stop feeling guilty for not wanting to have sex
Quote from FaithValley on January 24, 2026, 10:38 pmhonestly yeah. i do it all the time now. usually happens after foreplay when im just so exhausted from work. my partner jokes about it but doesnt mind. we just cuddle and fall asleep together. its cozy and honestly the best part of the night for me. no pressure to perform just rest.
honestly yeah. i do it all the time now. usually happens after foreplay when im just so exhausted from work. my partner jokes about it but doesnt mind. we just cuddle and fall asleep together. its cozy and honestly the best part of the night for me. no pressure to perform just rest.
Quote from Virginia1986 on September 8, 2026, 7:04 amI get it. My husband was pushing hard too. I stopped overthinking the performance part and just told him we need low pressure. We switched to just touching without expecting penetration. Took the edge off for both of us. Now we actually want to be closer. Don’t force it if your body says no. Communication works better than ghosting through it. Just be honest.
I get it. My husband was pushing hard too. I stopped overthinking the performance part and just told him we need low pressure. We switched to just touching without expecting penetration. Took the edge off for both of us. Now we actually want to be closer. Don’t force it if your body says no. Communication works better than ghosting through it. Just be honest.
Quote from lori1995 on May 14, 2026, 3:23 amomg no way. if he cheating and still trying to get in yo pants run. why u even consider it?? he dont respect u one bit. i would block him immediately. dont let him use ur body for ego boost. u deserve someone honest not some player playing games. stay away from that toxic energy.
omg no way. if he cheating and still trying to get in yo pants run. why u even consider it?? he dont respect u one bit. i would block him immediately. dont let him use ur body for ego boost. u deserve someone honest not some player playing games. stay away from that toxic energy.
Quote from Hummingbird on February 1, 2026, 11:30 amugh same here. i literally could not move after sitting through hours of teachers explaining why my son needs more support. my brain is completely fried and my spirit is low. im just gonna sit on the couch tonight in sweatpants and eat takeout. no cooking, no cleaning, just pure silence. if u need to vent about the exhaustion hit reply. we deserve a break after all that mental load.
ugh same here. i literally could not move after sitting through hours of teachers explaining why my son needs more support. my brain is completely fried and my spirit is low. im just gonna sit on the couch tonight in sweatpants and eat takeout. no cooking, no cleaning, just pure silence. if u need to vent about the exhaustion hit reply. we deserve a break after all that mental load.
Quote from Seaguarantee on July 13, 2025, 10:03 amI just throw a load of laundry in and call it a day. My husband complains but he never helps so I just ignore him. I’m black and white but mostly exhausted from moving every two years. Chicago winters are brutal enough without stressing over dust bunnies. I eat cereal on the counter while boxes sit in the living room. If he wants it perfect he can clean it himself. I’m too tired to care rn.
I just throw a load of laundry in and call it a day. My husband complains but he never helps so I just ignore him. I’m black and white but mostly exhausted from moving every two years. Chicago winters are brutal enough without stressing over dust bunnies. I eat cereal on the counter while boxes sit in the living room. If he wants it perfect he can clean it himself. I’m too tired to care rn.
Quote from Sunny2000 on July 13, 2025, 10:03 amim not really finding god atm just trying to survive the heat and my kids driving me crazy. honestly praying feels like work lately. i just make my coffee sit in silence for ten minutes. thats it. sometimes that quiet time is enough for me right now. dont overthink it. just breathe.
im not really finding god atm just trying to survive the heat and my kids driving me crazy. honestly praying feels like work lately. i just make my coffee sit in silence for ten minutes. thats it. sometimes that quiet time is enough for me right now. dont overthink it. just breathe.
Quote from Happy1982 on January 6, 2026, 4:08 pmWell sugar, first you gotta find something to wear that ain't your church dress. I just started meeting folks for coffee at the local shop. Keep it short so you can bail if it gets awkward. Dont overthink it. If he cant hold a conversation about the weather or his dog, swipe left. I had a date last week who talked too much himself but hey, he paid for my latte so it wasnt a total loss.
Well sugar, first you gotta find something to wear that ain't your church dress. I just started meeting folks for coffee at the local shop. Keep it short so you can bail if it gets awkward. Dont overthink it. If he cant hold a conversation about the weather or his dog, swipe left. I had a date last week who talked too much himself but hey, he paid for my latte so it wasnt a total loss.
Quote from Glowrush on July 23, 2026, 2:35 pmdivorced two years ago after exactly this. he was exhausted, i was resentful, we both hated ourselves. now i have sex with myself whenever i want. no negotiations, no guilt. its honestly liberating. save yourself the argument. fill your own cup or step outside and find a community where people actually show up. dont wait for a tired man to fix your loneliness.
divorced two years ago after exactly this. he was exhausted, i was resentful, we both hated ourselves. now i have sex with myself whenever i want. no negotiations, no guilt. its honestly liberating. save yourself the argument. fill your own cup or step outside and find a community where people actually show up. dont wait for a tired man to fix your loneliness.
Quote from gentleguarantee on March 3, 2026, 6:36 pmyikes. sorry ur dealing with that. id cut him off right then and there. no second chances after lying about apps. just block him everywhere and dont look back. your energy is better spent on yourself right now. take a breath and focus on healing. you didnt deserve that disrespect. stay strong sister.
yikes. sorry ur dealing with that. id cut him off right then and there. no second chances after lying about apps. just block him everywhere and dont look back. your energy is better spent on yourself right now. take a breath and focus on healing. you didnt deserve that disrespect. stay strong sister.
Quote from Clifffen on April 4, 2026, 2:16 pmHonestly im just resting. I swear, Like sleeping until my body stops screaming. I stopped trying to be productive or fix everything overnight. My therapist told me to treat myself like I had the flu, so thats what I do. Drink agua, nap in the day, eat whatever sounds good even if its junk food. You cant pour from an empty cup so just let yourself be useless for now. Take it one hour at a time.
Honestly im just resting. I swear, Like sleeping until my body stops screaming. I stopped trying to be productive or fix everything overnight. My therapist told me to treat myself like I had the flu, so thats what I do. Drink agua, nap in the day, eat whatever sounds good even if its junk food. You cant pour from an empty cup so just let yourself be useless for now. Take it one hour at a time.
