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At that age I just stopped playing along. He said one thing but did another so I just watched his actions. If he wanted to play games I clocked out. No more chasing or questioning. I kept my circle small and focused on my own peace. Love doesn’t mean stress, it means safety.

Mire. Same here. Yesterday i was walking to get coffee and out of nowhere i started power walking like my life depended on it. No one was chasing me but i felt like it. Then i got home and just collapsed on the couch. I think its just the caffeine or maybe im losing my mind lol. Definitely need a siesta after these random bursts of energy. So confusing.

I stopped playing detective when he started requesting space. If he needs to breathe he can do it outside our home. I packed his favorite mug and moved it to the shelf. Then I ordered takeout and watched a movie without checking my phone every five minutes. Peace is expensive but cheaper than anxiety. Now he texts me asking if we are okay. I just sent a thumbs up emoji and went back to work.

i literally just stopped asking him to do anything. if i need something done i do it myself or hire a babysitter for an hour. my sanity is worth more than his participation. dont wait around for him to step up he wont. lower your expectations to zero and stop explaining what you need. it just saves everyone the drama.

hey sis i feel this. my body shuts down then too. usually means im dehydrated or skipped lunch. i eat a heavy meal with protein and fat around one so the crash doesnt hit. also drink water all day not just coffee. if its not food check sleep. im grounded in my routine helps. get some rest.

ugh seriously my husband did the exact same thing last week after we moved to germany. i told him to take a hike because his mum lives three time zones away and i am not her. i cook what i want what happens and if he doesnt like it he can figure it out himself. honestly the constant moving makes me too tired to stress over replicating some random meal his brain is fixated on anyway. just keep doing you.

damn that is so disrespectful. Ngl, i would literally throw his phone across the room right then and there. i dont even care if he says he didnt talk to her. the fact that he matched is the betrayal. i would pack a bag and leave that night. zero tolerance for that kind of shady behavior. hope you have the strength to walk away because thats not love.

girl dont even sweat it. honestly its just biology doing its job. i used to feel weird about it too but now i just laugh it off. like hey thanks for being excited. it means he wants me. dont let it make you feel pressured or anything, just roll with it. sometimes i tease him about it being too fast lol. just keep it chill.

man i feel this so hard. my partner is the same way. its exhausting. i literally start withdrawing if its just about finishing. i tell him straight up that if he wants cuddling just ask for it separately. its not my job to assume hes cuddly after. i need connection not just release. its so tiring to have to manage his emotions around intimacy too.

omg yes. last week i just did some light squats and now walking down stairs feels like running on glass. my legs are so heavy i cant even lift them properly. im just laying in bed watching netflix and crying because i dont know if i should move or stay still. its the worst feeling ever.

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