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my husband wants to have sex every night and i just want to sleep
Quote from Stilllily on May 15, 2019, 10:37 pmI am so tired. It is 10 pm on a Tuesday. I came home from Target where I bought those cheap paper towels for 4 dollars. My back hurts from gardening. I just want to watch one episode of The Great British Bake Off and sleep. But Jerry wants to have sex every single night. He says he needs intimacy. I feel like a machine. I am 64 years old. I worked as a nurse for 35 years. I am not cold I am just exhausted. Last night he tried at 930 pm. I told him no. He got upset. He said I do not love him anymore. That is not true. I just want to rest. My granddaughter comes to visit on Saturday too. How do you say no without hurting his feelings?
I am so tired. It is 10 pm on a Tuesday. I came home from Target where I bought those cheap paper towels for 4 dollars. My back hurts from gardening. I just want to watch one episode of The Great British Bake Off and sleep. But Jerry wants to have sex every single night. He says he needs intimacy. I feel like a machine. I am 64 years old. I worked as a nurse for 35 years. I am not cold I am just exhausted. Last night he tried at 930 pm. I told him no. He got upset. He said I do not love him anymore. That is not true. I just want to rest. My granddaughter comes to visit on Saturday too. How do you say no without hurting his feelings?
Quote from honeybee1992 on April 9, 2019, 2:50 pmi used to pay for one of those apps but stopped after a year. honestly the ads were more stressful than the calm sounds. now i just sit in my garden or listen to birds from the porch. doesnt cost a dime and feels just as peaceful. maybe we just need quiet time without the fancy tech telling us how to breathe.
i used to pay for one of those apps but stopped after a year. honestly the ads were more stressful than the calm sounds. now i just sit in my garden or listen to birds from the porch. doesnt cost a dime and feels just as peaceful. maybe we just need quiet time without the fancy tech telling us how to breathe.
Quote from Donna1993 on October 28, 2020, 10:34 pmi usually just stop talking. I swear, him calling me sensitive is classic gaslighting. i walk away and let him sit in that energy. my spirit cant be drained by that nonsense. ur feelings are valid. dont let him rewrite ur reality. sometimes the best revenge is doing nothing and letting him feel the weight of his own words. stay grounded sis.
i usually just stop talking. I swear, him calling me sensitive is classic gaslighting. i walk away and let him sit in that energy. my spirit cant be drained by that nonsense. ur feelings are valid. dont let him rewrite ur reality. sometimes the best revenge is doing nothing and letting him feel the weight of his own words. stay grounded sis.
Quote from Heather2000 on July 14, 2020, 9:17 pmsame here i workout 4x a week but still crash by 7pm. realized it was just poor sleep hygiene and too much screen time before bed. started doing 15 min yoga after dinner and putting phone away earlier. helps a bit but honestly im just tired from coding all day. maybe im just burnt out.
same here i workout 4x a week but still crash by 7pm. realized it was just poor sleep hygiene and too much screen time before bed. started doing 15 min yoga after dinner and putting phone away earlier. helps a bit but honestly im just tired from coding all day. maybe im just burnt out.
Quote from winetime1980 on April 14, 2020, 1:15 amI just started sleeping on the couch. I swear, Honestly it was easier than lying there staring at the ceiling feeling rejected. He sleeps better now too but we barely speak. I spend my time with my horses and friends. You gotta take care of yourself first. If he won't put in the work then stop waiting for him to change. It saves a lot of drama.
I just started sleeping on the couch. I swear, Honestly it was easier than lying there staring at the ceiling feeling rejected. He sleeps better now too but we barely speak. I spend my time with my horses and friends. You gotta take care of yourself first. If he won't put in the work then stop waiting for him to change. It saves a lot of drama.
Quote from Luckycharm1988 on July 3, 2020, 12:56 amOh honey that sounds awful. I quit the treadmill years ago. My knees just couldn’t take it anymore. Now I walk around the park near my house. Much nicer. Fresh air and sunshine. Try lowering the incline or speed. Or just stop. No point hurting yourself. Drink some water too. Feel better.
Oh honey that sounds awful. I quit the treadmill years ago. My knees just couldn’t take it anymore. Now I walk around the park near my house. Much nicer. Fresh air and sunshine. Try lowering the incline or speed. Or just stop. No point hurting yourself. Drink some water too. Feel better.
Quote from Linenpledge on August 14, 2020, 8:56 pmyeah same. just moved to oklahoma last month and i am dead on my feet. unpacking feels impossible and the baby wont stop crying. i drink three coffees a day still cant keep my eyes open. feeling super gross lately too. hope this passes but right now im just exhausted. sending hugs to anyone else who feels like they ran a marathon just to get through the day.
yeah same. just moved to oklahoma last month and i am dead on my feet. unpacking feels impossible and the baby wont stop crying. i drink three coffees a day still cant keep my eyes open. feeling super gross lately too. hope this passes but right now im just exhausted. sending hugs to anyone else who feels like they ran a marathon just to get through the day.
Quote from Capecave on June 18, 2020, 6:45 amnah that sounds like he just wants to talk down to u. in my culture we respect elders but partners should talk equal. if he calls u sensitive for asking him to change his tone, he’s dodging accountability. i’d just leave the room when he starts like that. dont let him gaslight u into thinking ur valid feelings are wrong. ur not crazy for wanting basic respect from a partner.
nah that sounds like he just wants to talk down to u. in my culture we respect elders but partners should talk equal. if he calls u sensitive for asking him to change his tone, he’s dodging accountability. i’d just leave the room when he starts like that. dont let him gaslight u into thinking ur valid feelings are wrong. ur not crazy for wanting basic respect from a partner.
Quote from Wildrose1993 on January 30, 2021, 4:27 amI just go to the shed and sit for ten minutes. Doesn’t matter if it’s hot or cold, I need that silence. My husband stops by to yell at me about chores sometimes but I just ignore him till he leaves. Tells him if he wants peace, he needs to mind his own business. We’re in a small house so boundaries are tough but I don’t let him make me feel crazy for needing a break.
I just go to the shed and sit for ten minutes. Doesn’t matter if it’s hot or cold, I need that silence. My husband stops by to yell at me about chores sometimes but I just ignore him till he leaves. Tells him if he wants peace, he needs to mind his own business. We’re in a small house so boundaries are tough but I don’t let him make me feel crazy for needing a break.
Quote from Cloudnine1967 on August 22, 2021, 7:31 amlol honestly same. pilates is too boring sans hype. i went to a black woman owned studio downtown and its always full of energy. the instructor is loud af and calls you out if you cheating. makes it way more fun. also got a new friend who drives past so we carpool. sometimes u just need the drama and noise to get through a roll up.
lol honestly same. pilates is too boring sans hype. i went to a black woman owned studio downtown and its always full of energy. the instructor is loud af and calls you out if you cheating. makes it way more fun. also got a new friend who drives past so we carpool. sometimes u just need the drama and noise to get through a roll up.
