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My boo ghosted me for ‘not being low, key enough’
Quote from jennifer12_23 on September 1, 2026, 8:35 pmI went to Target on Tuesday looking for something cute to wear on my first date with this guy I met on Hinge last month. I ended up in the lingerie section, standing between the balconettes and boyshorts like a deer in headlights. It’s not just about what he’ll like, you know? It’s about feeling like myself, which these days feels harder to do.
I’ve been out of the dating game for a while, and now every little thing feels like a test. The way I laugh, the topics I bring up, whether I order wine or water at dinner. Last time I felt this nervous was when I was 19 and had a crush on my college chem lab partner. But back then at least I knew what I was getting into.
Does anyone else feel like dating now comes with a side of performance anxiety? How do you balance being yourself with the pressure to seem desirable?
I went to Target on Tuesday looking for something cute to wear on my first date with this guy I met on Hinge last month. I ended up in the lingerie section, standing between the balconettes and boyshorts like a deer in headlights. It’s not just about what he’ll like, you know? It’s about feeling like myself, which these days feels harder to do.
I’ve been out of the dating game for a while, and now every little thing feels like a test. The way I laugh, the topics I bring up, whether I order wine or water at dinner. Last time I felt this nervous was when I was 19 and had a crush on my college chem lab partner. But back then at least I knew what I was getting into.
Does anyone else feel like dating now comes with a side of performance anxiety? How do you balance being yourself with the pressure to seem desirable?