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john says he needs space again and i am done
Quote from Glowharp on September 16, 2019, 9:44 amit was 8pm last night when john left for his truck. he said he needs space again. this is the third time this month. i was standing at the checkout in Fred Meyer holding a bag of generic potatoes for 1.99 and a gallon of milk. i just stared at the conveyor belt feeling heavy. the kids are asleep. the house is quiet. i cleaned the kitchen twice today while waiting for him to come back inside and talk to me. he sits in his truck for an hour. i check my phone every five minutes. my shoulders hurt from holding them up. i feel tired in my bones. i dont want to chase him anymore. i have done the dishes and the laundry and the waiting. what do i do when i am this done.
it was 8pm last night when john left for his truck. he said he needs space again. this is the third time this month. i was standing at the checkout in Fred Meyer holding a bag of generic potatoes for 1.99 and a gallon of milk. i just stared at the conveyor belt feeling heavy. the kids are asleep. the house is quiet. i cleaned the kitchen twice today while waiting for him to come back inside and talk to me. he sits in his truck for an hour. i check my phone every five minutes. my shoulders hurt from holding them up. i feel tired in my bones. i dont want to chase him anymore. i have done the dishes and the laundry and the waiting. what do i do when i am this done.
Quote from Martha1984 on March 30, 2020, 8:18 amHonestly same here. I used to force myself to meditate for twenty minutes every morning and it just felt like another item on my to, do list. Now I just read one chapter of a book before bed. No pressure, no timer, just me and the story. If I miss a night, I dont sweat it. It stopped feeling like a chore once I stopped treating it like a performance and just kept it ridiculously low stakes.
Honestly same here. I used to force myself to meditate for twenty minutes every morning and it just felt like another item on my to, do list. Now I just read one chapter of a book before bed. No pressure, no timer, just me and the story. If I miss a night, I dont sweat it. It stopped feeling like a chore once I stopped treating it like a performance and just kept it ridiculously low stakes.
Quote from User3979 on September 24, 2020, 11:35 ami just stopped answering his texts about needing space. Honestly, honestly it feels exhausting to keep picking up the pieces every time he checks out. im focusing on my lesson planning and hanging out with my girls instead. if he wants space he can have it but im not holding my breath. it isnt my job to manage his emotions or wait around.
i just stopped answering his texts about needing space. Honestly, honestly it feels exhausting to keep picking up the pieces every time he checks out. im focusing on my lesson planning and hanging out with my girls instead. if he wants space he can have it but im not holding my breath. it isnt my job to manage his emotions or wait around.
Quote from Craftqueen1989 on January 13, 2021, 1:41 pmfr i’m exhausted. I swear, i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
fr i’m exhausted. I swear, i used to do everything for everyone n now i just say no. like really just no. people get mad but i dont care anymore. my peace is expensive. i stopped answering my phone after 8pm n people think im rude but nah im just protecting my energy. if u ask me again im ghosting.
Quote from rachel1968 on May 3, 2021, 6:59 pmwe moved 3 times last year. my husband thinks moving boxes is mans work but folding shirts is mine. i let the living room pile up. he complained once then carried the trash to curb himself. dont cook fancy food on day 1. order pizza. if house isnt perfect but kids are fed and beds are made thats win in my book. survival mode is real for immigrant moms.
we moved 3 times last year. my husband thinks moving boxes is mans work but folding shirts is mine. i let the living room pile up. he complained once then carried the trash to curb himself. dont cook fancy food on day 1. order pizza. if house isnt perfect but kids are fed and beds are made thats win in my book. survival mode is real for immigrant moms.
Quote from jadehawk on August 28, 2021, 5:00 amit is 11 pm and the house is dead quiet. my husband fell asleep on the couch at 930 pm with the tv still on. i just did laundry for the fourth time this week because the kids spill juice everywhere. i went to target today for a $2 cereal box and spent $80 on stuff i do not need. now i am sitting here drinking rooibos tea but i cannot relax. the air feels heavy. why does my home feel so cold and empty when my whole family is literally in the other room? i tried lighting a candle from ulta but it did not help. i just feel so drained. is this normal or am i just crazy?
it is 11 pm and the house is dead quiet. my husband fell asleep on the couch at 930 pm with the tv still on. i just did laundry for the fourth time this week because the kids spill juice everywhere. i went to target today for a $2 cereal box and spent $80 on stuff i do not need. now i am sitting here drinking rooibos tea but i cannot relax. the air feels heavy. why does my home feel so cold and empty when my whole family is literally in the other room? i tried lighting a candle from ulta but it did not help. i just feel so drained. is this normal or am i just crazy?
Quote from Heartlegend on August 20, 2021, 11:54 amI honestly just walk on the treadmill and read audiobooks. If I try to lift weights with the bros I look like an idiot anyway so I just dodge them. Also the laundry situation is a nightmare so I bring extra clothes. I hate the smell of the place but at least I can zone out and not talk to anyone which is probably why I do it.
I honestly just walk on the treadmill and read audiobooks. If I try to lift weights with the bros I look like an idiot anyway so I just dodge them. Also the laundry situation is a nightmare so I bring extra clothes. I hate the smell of the place but at least I can zone out and not talk to anyone which is probably why I do it.
Quote from peatvariation on December 25, 2021, 3:44 amhaleya same thing happens to me every night. i wake up at 3am then stare at ceiling for an hour. usually i just check phone until i fall asleep again. its exhausting but honestly my brain wont shut off. coffee helps during day but useless at night. try drinking less water before bed maybe? not sure if it helps but worth a shot. good luck
haleya same thing happens to me every night. i wake up at 3am then stare at ceiling for an hour. usually i just check phone until i fall asleep again. its exhausting but honestly my brain wont shut off. coffee helps during day but useless at night. try drinking less water before bed maybe? not sure if it helps but worth a shot. good luck
Quote from Betty1986 on May 23, 2021, 3:59 pmomg mija stop crying i know it feels awful but breathe. when i had my mammogram scare i just ate tacos and watched telenovelas to distract myself. dont google symptoms its a nightmare. just rest and let the hormones settle. we are strong mothers ya know? call me if you need to vent more pero no more tears okay?
omg mija stop crying i know it feels awful but breathe. when i had my mammogram scare i just ate tacos and watched telenovelas to distract myself. dont google symptoms its a nightmare. just rest and let the hormones settle. we are strong mothers ya know? call me if you need to vent more pero no more tears okay?
Quote from warmgarden1996 on October 8, 2021, 9:27 ambhai yaar, bilkul normal hai. Honestly, i am also 42 and honestly, some days i just want to sleep. body gets tired, stress from kahani and work. don't force it. my husband understands too. sometimes cuddling is enough. just take rest. no need tension leta. everyone goes through this phase.
bhai yaar, bilkul normal hai. Honestly, i am also 42 and honestly, some days i just want to sleep. body gets tired, stress from kahani and work. don't force it. my husband understands too. sometimes cuddling is enough. just take rest. no need tension leta. everyone goes through this phase.
