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how to stop feeling guilty for not wanting to have sex
Quote from hollowdrum on September 25, 2019, 11:21 pmit is 11pm and i just got home from target buying diapers because i forgot them again. my boyfriend asked for sex last night but i just said no. not because i am mad, just because i am exhausted. he gave me that look like i am broken. i feel so guilty. i wake up at 5am for work then come home and do all the chores by myself. i feel dirty sometimes, like a good wife would be into it. but i am just so tired. i look at my phone and see his texts asking if i am okay. i dont know what to say. i miss feeling close but my body feels heavy and sore. am i the only one who feels this way after working a full job?
it is 11pm and i just got home from target buying diapers because i forgot them again. my boyfriend asked for sex last night but i just said no. not because i am mad, just because i am exhausted. he gave me that look like i am broken. i feel so guilty. i wake up at 5am for work then come home and do all the chores by myself. i feel dirty sometimes, like a good wife would be into it. but i am just so tired. i look at my phone and see his texts asking if i am okay. i dont know what to say. i miss feeling close but my body feels heavy and sore. am i the only one who feels this way after working a full job?
Quote from Softpetal82 on March 5, 2020, 2:13 pmimma be honest i gained like 5 pounds last month too. just muscle though. stop staring at the scale girl. its not fat. in my culture we always obsessed with weight but you look strong as hell. trust me my mom thinks i got fat but i know the truth. keep lifting and ignore the number. its just water weight anyway. drink more water.
imma be honest i gained like 5 pounds last month too. just muscle though. stop staring at the scale girl. its not fat. in my culture we always obsessed with weight but you look strong as hell. trust me my mom thinks i got fat but i know the truth. keep lifting and ignore the number. its just water weight anyway. drink more water.
Quote from goldenheart1973 on January 21, 2020, 5:23 amfr I got u. sometimes I just want somebody to stare at me like I’m the only person in the room again. stuff gets real and u just wanna nap or argue about whose turn it is to do dishes. I catch myself daydreaming about those late night calls where we just talked for hours about nothing. it’s not wrong it’s just human. I’m still trying to figure out how to keep that spark alive without losing my mind.
fr I got u. sometimes I just want somebody to stare at me like I’m the only person in the room again. stuff gets real and u just wanna nap or argue about whose turn it is to do dishes. I catch myself daydreaming about those late night calls where we just talked for hours about nothing. it’s not wrong it’s just human. I’m still trying to figure out how to keep that spark alive without losing my mind.
Quote from Rachel1983 on November 10, 2020, 3:06 pmomg i relate so hard. my ex did the same thig constantly. i would just make a mental note of every time he said one thing but did another. eventually the pattern became impossible to ignore. if his actions dont match his words then trust the actions. u deserve someone who just shows up consistently without u having to ask or play detective. its exhausting n u rnt alone.
omg i relate so hard. my ex did the same thig constantly. i would just make a mental note of every time he said one thing but did another. eventually the pattern became impossible to ignore. if his actions dont match his words then trust the actions. u deserve someone who just shows up consistently without u having to ask or play detective. its exhausting n u rnt alone.
Quote from gentleforest1979 on December 26, 2020, 12:16 amhola girl. i get it. after my daughter was born i felt the exact same way. like my body belongs to everyone else but me. i just tell him i’m not in the headspace. we cuddle or watch telenovelas instead. no pressure. your body is yours, dont force it. take all the time u need. we’ll get there when ur ready.
hola girl. i get it. after my daughter was born i felt the exact same way. like my body belongs to everyone else but me. i just tell him i’m not in the headspace. we cuddle or watch telenovelas instead. no pressure. your body is yours, dont force it. take all the time u need. we’ll get there when ur ready.
Quote from bridgeridge on September 11, 2021, 4:17 pmNot weird at all. I miss making his coffee and folding his shirts way more than I miss the actual relationship. The drama was exhausting. The routine was peaceful. I still wake up reaching for the iron sometimes. It’s just quieter now. I’m learning to be okay with my own company instead of filling the space with someone else’s nonsense. It takes time but the calm is worth it.
Not weird at all. I miss making his coffee and folding his shirts way more than I miss the actual relationship. The drama was exhausting. The routine was peaceful. I still wake up reaching for the iron sometimes. It’s just quieter now. I’m learning to be okay with my own company instead of filling the space with someone else’s nonsense. It takes time but the calm is worth it.
Quote from Lichenthorn on February 15, 2021, 9:12 amhonestly just keep it stupid simple. military life is stressful enough without trying to figure out a ten, step routine. i stick to ceraface cleanser, moisturizer, and spf 50. thats it. if my skin looks trash i just sleep it off. stop overthinking it. complicated routines are a trap. consistency beats intensity every time. just wash your face and slather on sunscreen. really.
honestly just keep it stupid simple. military life is stressful enough without trying to figure out a ten, step routine. i stick to ceraface cleanser, moisturizer, and spf 50. thats it. if my skin looks trash i just sleep it off. stop overthinking it. complicated routines are a trap. consistency beats intensity every time. just wash your face and slather on sunscreen. really.
Quote from Homemaker1977 on December 25, 2021, 3:44 ambeta honestly its so funny. my husband used to say same thing after 5 years. i just told him stop guessing and start asking. now we have proper schedule for intimacy. he thinks im strict but at least he knows what i want. dont let him call it demanding. call it clear communication. he needs to wake up and listen not just complain.
beta honestly its so funny. my husband used to say same thing after 5 years. i just told him stop guessing and start asking. now we have proper schedule for intimacy. he thinks im strict but at least he knows what i want. dont let him call it demanding. call it clear communication. he needs to wake up and listen not just complain.
Quote from Duskkeep on June 14, 2021, 7:57 pmSame. I feel like I’m running on fumes mostly. I’ve started drinking way more water and forcing myself to put my phone away an hour before bed. It helps a bit but honestly I think it’s just burnout from work and life in general. I’m not even that old yet but I definitely feel it in my bones lol.
Same. I feel like I’m running on fumes mostly. I’ve started drinking way more water and forcing myself to put my phone away an hour before bed. It helps a bit but honestly I think it’s just burnout from work and life in general. I’m not even that old yet but I definitely feel it in my bones lol.
Quote from seahoar on January 16, 2021, 2:40 amI give up on keeping it pristine. Bought heavy plastic bins for all the weights and shoved them under the desk. Now it looks like a storage closet but at least i can actually find things. My divorce was two years ago so i learned to let perfection go pretty quick. Just do what works for you, everyone else is too busy caring about their own mess.
I give up on keeping it pristine. Bought heavy plastic bins for all the weights and shoved them under the desk. Now it looks like a storage closet but at least i can actually find things. My divorce was two years ago so i learned to let perfection go pretty quick. Just do what works for you, everyone else is too busy caring about their own mess.
