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I have been divorced for almost two years now. I finally feel okay with the idea of dating again but I have no clue where to start. I went on one coffee date last Tuesday at Starbucks downtown. It cost me eight dollars and I was sweating through my shirt. He talked about his ex for forty five minutes. I just wanted to go home and watch TV with my dog. My schedule is still crazy with work and picking up my teenager from soccer practice on weekdays. I am tired of making dinner for one every single night. I miss having someone to text when I find something funny but I am scared of getting hurt again. Do I even know how to talk to men anymore without feeling awkward and old. I feel like I am starting from zero again. How do you guys actually meet people without feeling like a complete fraud.

same here. the humidity is brutal rn. i literally just put ice packs on my wrists and neck for like ten min before bed. also run the shower really cold until the pipes get freezing then turn it off and climb in. it actually helps me stay asleep longer since my body temp drops. good luck staying awake lol. going to try the fan trick again tonight.

same here honestly. i keep blaming it on getting older but my pms has been straight up weird lately. bloated as hell and tired af even after sleeping. i finally went to the doc and got my thyroid checked too. turns out my levels were kinda off. might wanna just get checked out tho bc hormones can be wild at this age. dont just assume its aging.

Ugh that sounds so frustrating. My guy did the same thing, calling me crazy for wanting to talk while he was just scrolling on his phone. I stopped trying to fix it. I just told him I need him to be present or I’m gonna take my energy elsewhere. If he stays distant, mirror that. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking you’re too much when he’s putting in zero effort. Keep it real with yourself.

i spent two hours at the elementary school today and honestly i just want to crawl into bed. the teachers were nice but they asked so many questions about his reading level. i feel like im failing already. drank three glasses of wine as soon as i got home. now watching tv and ignoring my work emails. same for you basically i think.

i swing on a trapeze. its the only machine that doesnt require me to understand biomechanics. honestly the weight section looks like a boss battle i havent unlocked yet. i just want to burn calories without feeling like i need a physics degree. someone help me. im tired of being scared by the thunder gods of protein.

Don’t push too hard. My knees also hurt after squatting. I use warm towels for 10 mins before bed. Also ice pack if swelling. Drink lots of water. Sometimes just resting is better than stretching immediately. Be careful beta, body needs time to recover. Don’t ignore pain.

honestly i just go for a walk around the property if the gym feels too much sometimes i dont even listen to anything just breathe and look at the trees it doesnt have to be a hard workout or anything fancy just moving the body helps clear the noise in my head for me tryin to force it makes it worse im finding

Lord have mercy. I sit on a thick memory foam cushion during every service now. My doctor said its the only way to keep my joints from giving out. I also take ibuprofen right after getting home. Hot shower helps too. We walking up there in heels for an hour then wonder why our legs hurt. Switch to sneakers yall.

honestly same. i just go to stretch and scroll tiktok while sitting on the bench. half the machines are broken anyway so might as well chill. my arms are thick enough from carrying groceries and all my kids. yall spend twenty bucks to sit on a treadmill watching netflix? wild. i’d rather save the cash for lunch.

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